“I wish this body didn’t have needs!” (Autism, Eating Disorders, and Demand Avoidance)

How much of your existence is shrouded in resistance?

Something a lot of us gifted autistics feel resistance towards is the needs of the human body.

Food, water, sleep, bathroom…

Every bodily demand feels like an interruption, a violation of autonomy. As Kathi shared in today’s group podcast, her father literally says “I want to decide when I want to eat. I don't want my body to tell me when to eat!”

If you have PDA (officially “Pathological Demand Avoidance” but I prefer the term “Pervasive Drive for Autonomy”), rejecting bodily needs is an attempt to preserve autonomy.

Through this lens, the eating disorder – the ultimate rejection of bodily needs – can almost be seen as an extreme manifestation of PDA.

Of course, the paradox is that the ED itself is a violation of autonomy…because when your every next move is decided by the ED force, well you ain’t so much “in control” anymore, eh?

In today’s episode of the Liv Label Free Podcast, we dive DEEP into eating disorders and PDA, as well as:

• How diagnoses help validate our struggles
• Intergenerational patterns of resisting bodily needs
• Why mental hunger is a legitimate hunger signal (Kathi shares a great metaphor!)
• Franz Kafka’s “A Hunger Artist” and existential loneliness
• Why recovery requires surrender before proof

I know how “claustrophobic” it can feel to be an infinite soul contained in a human body costume. But as I’ve been reminding myself lately, suffering is amplified by resisting what is.

XO Liv

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